Couple who say they haven’t fought in 30 years share their top relationship tips

The couple is now trying to help other relationships (Picture: Facebook)

A couple who claim they haven’t argued once in 30 years of marriage are sharing their secrets to a successful relationship.

Hannah and Blair Keeley, both 53, have admitted to getting upset with each other on occasion, but they say their communication skills prevent a proper fight.

‘Relationships are a skill, not a gift,’ the pair told Fox News.

‘Our parents both have long-standing healthy relationships, [so] we learned what to do, and what not to do, by observing them.’

Communication has always been vital for the parents of seven. They first met during their first year of college at Furman University in Greensville, South Carolina, in 1986. 

However, love took its time. They didn’t start dating until three and a half years later, after Blair discovered Hannah’s lost sketchbook and asked to catch up with her before graduation. 

Hannah and Blair KeeleyThe couple has been blissfully happy for 30 years (Picture: Facebook)

Immediately, there was a spark, but long distance would get in the way. Hannah moved to Columbia, South Carolina, for graduate school, and Blair went to work for a news agency in Saudi Arabia.  

They kept in touch by sending letters, eventually reunited and got married on December 21, 1991.

Hannah, a master life coach, and Blair, a marketing professional, went on to have seven children: Kelsey, Katie, Kyler, Karis, Korben, Klara, and Kenna. 

Despite having a hustling and bustling house filled with stress, Blair and Hannah claim they have never raised their voices at each other.

Hannah and Blair Keeley with their 7 kids The couple has seven children (Picture: Facebook)

‘You yell and scream at the easiest target available — your spouse,’ the couple explained.

They believe behaving like this is similar to a child throwing a tantrum. 

They call their marriage a ‘partnership of power’ and try to ‘fight on the same side’ instead of against one another. 

Whenever situations do get heated, they share their feelings, expectations and talk thoroughly instead of fighting. 

‘An argument is there to expose something. If you resort to fighting, you’ve both lost,’ they advised.

Hannah and Blair KeeleyCommunication is key (Picture: Facebook)

The couple also notes the importance of body language. 

‘Closed in posture, [people] feel attacked. Big movements, they feel unimportant. Downward gaze, they feel embarrassed or ashamed. Upward gaze, they feel confused,’ they explained. 

They also think couples should stop saying the word ‘should’, because this leads to a partner thinking a partner should be different. 

Not going to bed angry is also important for the pair as sleep promotes the strengthening of weakly encoded memories. 

Hannah and Blair KeeleyThey encourage couples to ‘grow’ together (Picture: Facebook)

‘Anger toward your spouse can easily turn into a belief if you don’t manage the thought prior to bedtime,’ they said. ‘Always affirm the love you have for that person, even if there is no resolution.’

Blair and Hannah often turn to their faith and the bible when in need of guidance. They also challenge each other ‘to grow’ instead of trying to ‘fix’ and ‘complete’ one another. 

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To those who don’t believe their claims, the couple doesn’t care because those who know them best know it’s true. 

They said: ‘Maybe the very best thing you can do for your marriage is believe that harmony in that partnership is not only possible, but easy to achieve.’ 

Blair and Hannah's top tips for a happy relationship

  • Never raise your voice. When angry, share feelings, expectations and internal narratives working through your heads. 
  • See a marriage as a ‘partnership of power’ instead of one of opposition. 
  • Always be aware of body language. Look at your partner’s body language and listen without interruption. 
  • Avoid using the word ‘should.’
  • Don’t go to bed angry. Always affirm your love, even if a resolution isn’t found. 
  • Partners should ‘challenge each other to grow’ instead of trying to ‘fix’ and ‘complete’ one another. 

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